You should know that when I was young I was shy, so I have a lot of empathy for what you’re going through yourself.
The whole idea is to overcome that set of frustrating fears that currently have you kind of mired in an anxious, shy place.
Do a whole bunch of different thoughts go through your your mind like monkey chatter you hear at the Central Park Zoo?
Are there what seems like hundreds of monkeys screaming all different things in you ear, none of which are good thoughts?
By you telling yourself (and others) that you are a shy person, you are negatively affecting your own mindset. One of the first, and most important ways to overcome shyness is to be conscious about eliminating it as part of your identity.
One way to get to that place if you are having trouble is to speak about yourself as if you've already overcome your shyness.
I just want you to see someone long enough for you to investigate the roots of your shyness.
I want this therapist to be the kind of person who can give you ideas and who can help you develop a plan for overcoming your shyness. You need the encouragement of a person who is there as your coach.
Did you know that for many people, shyness is the number one obstacle they have in their dating life?
Shyness is one of those personality traits psychologists believe is largely biologically based, meaning that you’re born with it or with a predisposition to it.
But fear not: Even biology can’t prevent you from learning new ways to approach others.
Ever known anyone obese who worked hard and lost weight? Just like a person can make an effort to change a physical trait, a person can make an effort to change a personality trait.
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